Shoulding all over yourself. Sounds terrible. Do it too often and your life can really become a mess. “I should ask for a raise,” “I should have prepared better for my speech,” “I know I should go back to school,” “I’ve been told I should start a business.”
How often do you find yourself using the word “should” to describe your “almost behaviors?” How realistic are your expectations? People hide behind “should” when they don’t feel empowered. What are the true roadblocks you feel are in the way of changing your “should” to “did”?
– Jackie Simon
One of the best ways to encourage people to assume greater leadership and more responsibility is to help them to do so. More often than not, it involves managing yourself and getting out of the way of people on your team so they are given the time, space, and opportunity to do more. If you’re always the one problem solving, leading meetings, and making decisions, how will others in your organization develop skills to do the same?
If you’re really great at problem solving, yet tired of always being the one to do it, it’s probably time for you to step aside and teach someone else so they can take the lead. When you’re always the one doing, doing, doing and going, going, going it’s difficult for others to get in front of you. You’re not growing and changing and neither are the people on your team.
Leaders help people grow, and in doing so, they recognize when to lead and when to step out of the way to let people on their teams take the lead. Getting out of your team’s way and letting them get in yours gives your team members the opportunity to experience new situations and develop their style and abilities. And, you will learn something in the process.
Do you find yourself saying, “I wish the people on my team would take the lead”? Or, “people just don’t step up in the ways I want them to”? If so, what can you do to get out of your team’s way?